Sacred Reminders – Post 8: Ego, Control, and Communication

Conscious Communication | Ego Work | Relationships

Ego, Control, and Communication

We say we want truth.

We say we want connection.

But the moment discomfort arises in conversation, many of us shut down.

“Why are we fighting?”

“Let’s not talk about it.”

“You’re being too sensitive.”

These phrases seem harmless—peace-seeking even.

But often, they are not peace.

They are the ego’s escape route.

Avoidance isn’t healing.

Silence isn’t clarity.

And bypassing discomfort doesn’t bring connection—it deepens the gap.

I’ve come to notice this pattern not only in others, but also in myself.

The subtle desire to control the outcome of a conversation,

To be “right”,

To protect the image of self.

But the soul doesn’t want to win.

The soul wants to understand.

The soul wants truth, not triumph.

It’s the ego that fears being exposed.

It’s the ego that chooses control over vulnerability.

It’s the ego that mistakes agreement for love.

I now ask myself in tense moments:

Am I speaking to be heard or to be understood?

Am I avoiding this because I fear the truth or because I fear who I’ll be without control?

Healing happens when we stay present—when we speak and listen with open hearts.

Even when it’s hard.

Especially when it’s hard.

True connection begins where ego ends.

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Sacred Reflection:

“I release the need to win the conversation.

I choose truth over comfort. I choose presence over pride.”

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