Through My Eyes, Not Theirs

“When We Stop Seeing Our Kids Through the Eyes of Others”

There comes a quiet shift in the heart when we stop seeing our children through the eyes of others—when we no longer measure their worth, behavior, or achievements by what the world thinks is right or enough.

The pressure to conform to societal standards, parental expectations, cultural norms—it all slowly dissolves when we begin to truly see our child. Not as someone who must perform, achieve, or impress, but as a unique being on their own sacred journey.

We stop asking,

“What will people think?”

and start asking,

“What does my child need in this moment to feel loved, accepted, and whole?”

In this shift, we free ourselves too. We let go of the silent judgments we’ve carried. The comparison. The shame. The need to prove we’re “good parents.”

Instead, we become present. We begin to parent from a place of connection, not correction. Curiosity, not criticism. Compassion, not control.

And in doing so, we gift our children the greatest inheritance: the freedom to be themselves, unapologetically and fully.